Are you ready?

I love coaching individuals, couples and teams! I have seen how coaching ministry partners goes so well with my purpose and passions in life. I love encouraging, empowering, and walking with people through the different facets of life so they can live their life to the fullest. Life coaching gives me the skills to do it even better now.

Over the past 5 months I have been working through a program to becoming an Internationally Certified Life Coach. I have had the desire to do this for many years and due to the COVID-19 lockdown I have had the time, money and opportunity to do it remotely.

I am seeing how my coaching is helping me in every other area of work, ministry and life. From conversations with my children, to working with people on projects at work, to pastoral care ministry, I can use this powerful tool of coaching to have a greater impact.

Why Use a Coach?

The reasons people want coaching are endless, and as unique as the person. Here are a few examples that motivate people to use a coach.

“You will never maximize your potential in any area without coaching. It is impossible. You may be good. You may even be better than everyone else. But without outside input you will never be as good as you could be.” 

Andy Stanley, The Next Generation

  • To make significant changes
  • To better deal with uncertainty
  • To make better decisions To set better goals
  • To reach goals faster
  • To grow spiritually
  • To become financially more stable
  • To get ahead personally
  • To have a collaborative partner
  • To improve their relationships
  • To make a bigger impact on the world
  • To be a better leader
  • To simplify their lives
  • To reduce stress
  • To keep up with the speed of life
  • To address transitions in location and employment

Do you need a coach in life?

Are ready to chase a dream?

Are you looking for a fulfilling balance in life?

Are you wondering where your career is heading?

Are trying to transition in life or work?

Are you thinking about making a tough decision?

Are you looking for a break through in your business, relationships, health, or hobbies? 

I am currently looking to take on several more bi-monthly clients this month, so if you are interested please don’t hesitate to send an email to spanky.rouse@gmail.com. The first session is an exploratory meeting where you experience what coaching is at first hand and I get to hear what you want to focus on. This session is FREE! We will then make a game plan to move forward from here. 

I would love to meet in person, but I am also very comfortable with coaching via Zoom. I have almost 100 hours of Zoom coaching calls so far where real people have seen real results.

Reviews from my personal clients:

“Man, I don’t even like talking about my feelings and things like this, but somehow you brought it out. I feel really good now!” – Missionary

“You are really good at this stuff! I can’t believe I just shared all of that and now have a plan for the week.” – Pastor

“I seriously needed this! I was wondering what to do and how to get it all done. Last week we talked, made action steps and I was more excited to tackle this project than anything else I have done all year!” –Entrepreneur

“This is so helpful during my transition. I didn’t know where to start, but look at all I have accomplished these past couple months.” –Non-Profit Manager

“I’m not a very self motivated person, but over the past couple months I have made progress in my professional goals, worked through conflict with co-workers, and set up really good times to spend with my wife talking about the bible and life.”-Soon to be dad

“I have a lot of projects I want to start. I want to gain some mental clarity in life. I need to increase my income. I need the accountability and encouragement you give when we meet and I immediately feel like I can trust you. Thanks!” –Ministry Leader

What is Coaching?

Coaching is an ongoing conversation that empowers a person or team to fully live out God’s calling – in their life and profession. 

Coaching is expected to produce insights, greater personal awareness, changed behaviors, actions, and ultimately results that satisfy the client. 

Coaching is all about you…

The client leads the conversation with what is going on in their life, goals they are wanting to reach, change they are wanting to see, issues and decisions they are working through, and what is most important to them. 

The coach listens, ask questions, and walks with the client. 

What Coaching Isn’t

It’s not therapy. Although many of the communication techniques are the same, like active listening, reflecting, use of questions, limited advice giving, etc., therapy focuses on the past to bring healing and unblock a person to move ahead. Coaching is future and action-oriented, for people who are basically clear of psychological and emotional issues.

It’s not mentoring. Mentors are experts in a particular field who seek to pass on their expertise to a person. Mentors provide knowledge, advice, guidance, correction, and encouragement to people who are newer and junior—by experience if not by position or age. 

It’s not training. In training, the trainer sets the agenda. Change comes from outside the participant, via the trainer. In coaching, you set the agenda. Coaches use adult learning principles of self-discovery to motivate change from within you.

It’s not authoritarian. Did you have a tough sports coach who used to yell at you and make you do a million push-ups if you made a mistake? That’s not coaching. Your coach will push you beyond what you might think you can do, but will always be supportive. You are in control. The responsibility to decide and act is yours. 

Why Does Coaching Work?

Coaching works because it brings out your best – what God put in! As a Coach, I believe that you can figure out every answer to life problems but it is sometime helpful to have someone walk along with you. 

Specifically, this is what your coach will do during coaching sessions:

  • Listen. Your story is central. Coaches fully engage in what you are saying. They also listen to the Holy Spirit and encourage you to do the same.
  • Ask questions. Coaches use questions to stimulate your thinking and creativity. Questions are about possibilities and the future.
  • Encourage. Everyone needs encouragements, and usually we don’t get enough. Your coach will hold up your vision, your progress, and your efforts.
  • Facilitate while letting you lead. Coaches facilitate your learning and problem solving. Yet, they are never fully leading – you are, with your agenda and your approach. 

Let’s get started!

What Faithfulness Looks Like To Us

2020 has been more different than any of us ever imagined. Even with things slowing getting back to normal our life just feels different. Fortunately, this year and its changes and challenges were no surprise to God and He has been slowly preparing us for years for these weird days we are in. And we know that He is also using this season to prepare us for the next one. He is just faithful like that! It has been helpful for us mentally and spiritually to remember this simple truth and reflect on how His hand has been weaving our days in to this special life we get to live. Let me give you a couple of examples…

House Groups at Jinja Town Church

With the lockdown of churches here in Uganda we have been streaming Jinja Town Church on FB. It was the best option at the time but everyone is missing the community that gathering for church on Sunday creates. In an effort to serve our church better we are introducing home groups to Jinja Town Church. This past month I have been able to help 9 groups begin meeting through out the week in different areas around town. I send out a short video each week summarising the sermon from Sunday along with a few questions and discussion points. Every group spends time praying for one another, enjoy fellowship together, and take communion. We have already had 4 people give their life to the Lord and so many others are being encouraged weekly by these gatherings. It is fun to see how the Lord is using our past experiences and skills we learned leading Small Groups at Ridge Church to serve the local church and meet people’s needs here today. 

Msumba Spanky

One of my roles at Jinja Town Church is to help share the preaching responsibilities and give Msumba (Pastor) Smooth a break. He is a great teacher and speaker and spends lots of time each week preparing. It is my pleasure to give him a breather every few weeks. Two weeks ago I had the opportunity to preach and finish up the sermon series “Storms”. I focused on Ps.91:14-16 and the promises the Lord gives us in those verses. Going through storms in life is inevitable, but God is faithful as we pass through them. Preaching is something that I am having to grow in but it has been a good outlet for me in processing what I am going through personally and what the Lord is doing in my life. Through this time of studying and preparation I was reminded of all the storms the Lord has brought me through and the promise that He is forever present with me. Here is the link if you would like to listen. https://web.facebook.com/watch/live/?v=2454100358232168&ref=search

Doing Life With People Gives Life

One thing the Lord taught us years ago is how important it is to live life with other people. We were created for community and the Lord calls us to help carry other people’s burdens. This takes work, it takes time, it requires vulnerability and it sometimes feels heavy, but it is so worth it. Not only do you get to see the faithfulness of God in your own life, you get a front row seat to see Him at work in others lives. God has used the people in our life so many times to encourage and bless us. It is our hearts desire to be that for others. When we were moving to Uganda we knew that the Lord wanted us to serve the people of Uganda, but we also had a desire to care for those in the expat community. We make an effort to connect with the people the Lord puts in our path and enjoy this journey together. It just makes the valleys and the mountain tops better.

Jinja Sweat

We love connecting with people from all over the world, hearing their stories and looking for ways to serve them and Jinja is full of so many people from so many different places. Our home gym, Jinja Sweat, was birthed out of this desire to build community and healthier bodies. We knew that accomplishing these two things would help others in becoming healthier emotionally and mentally too. We had no idea that during this crazy time our small gym classes would meet such a practical and real need. We have had so many people tell us that more than anything Jinja Sweat has helped them to stay sane during this time and even helped to fight off depression. That folks, is what you call a win! We have 2 small classes, 3 times a week, on a dirt floor, under a tin roof shelter, with minimal equipment, but the impact on people’s lives in spectacular. We are seeing more and more how creative God is in His plan to use our lives! Lara and I both experienced the power that exercise and attempting to eat healthy foods can make in your life just a few years ago. If there has ever been a time that we need to prioritise some self care to reduce the stress of life, the time is now! I am so grateful for the opportunity I was given at Carolina Sweat to get my fitness coach license and learn how to teach group fitness classes. Those skills are hard at work these days and are making an impact on so many!

Be Encouraged Friends

Even if this season feels weird, wasted, different and frustrating, please know that God will use it to prepare you for whatever is next and whatever is next is even better!

Will you be praying these things for us:

  • Eyes to be open to the opportunities and people around us
  • Strength and energy to continue investing in others
  • Spiritual growth and deepen relationship with the Lord
  • Extra funds for a gym floor (Pavers, Not dirt)
  • Wisdom
  • Direction for Jinja Town Church during this time
  • Mental, emotional and spiritual healthiness
  • Spanky finished his Life coaching school and is now working on hours so he can get his International Certification